Self Management is the key to realising inner peace
Self-discipline was never something I was attracted to in my younger years. In fact I rebuffed it as a child since my father was always so proud of his disciplined military training. He was enforced to live around a tight schedule of shift work as ground staff at the airport, which made me value my freedom even more. In those days I felt happy to live free from being told what to do but the consequence of such freedom meant little to show in the way of achievement at school.
Ironically, here I am many years later as the facilitator of Me Management, a self- regulatory system that develops self-mastery over psychological limitation. Being trained as an NLP practitioner gave me great insight into the workings of my conditioned mind and helped me to objectively recognize the redundant beliefs that formed the foundation of my constraints. NLP provides great tools and processes for reconditioning the mind but more importantly it helped me gain objective recognition of my inner voice. Up until that point I was a victim to my own thinking and emotions, and found that a mood validated by belief could move me to do things I would regret later. According to author Eckhart Tolle: “When you recognize that there is a voice in your head that pretends to be you and never stops speaking, you are awakening out of your unconscious identification with the stream of thinking. When you notice that voice, you realize that who you are is not the voice – the thinker – but the one who is aware of it. Knowing yourself as the awareness behind the voice is freedom.”
To experience freedom identified as the mind is very different from experiencing freedom from identification with the mind. When I was identified with my thoughts as someone that didn’t want to be controlled the fight for freedom was long and arduous. It was attached to a lot of conditions of what freedom should look like and it was hard to sustain. It was also relative to my age as values change. As a teenager truancy from school even for even one day gave me a taste of immense freedom without the academic pressure or the feeling of rejection I so often felt from being left out of social circles. By association, learning in those days meant pressure and rejection because my thinking and beliefs impacted my experience. Today my joy is to create an inner learning environment for people to recognize that their sense of freedom is relative to their beliefs about themselves and their situation, which can change through recognition alone.
Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl once said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lie our growth and our freedom.” Too easily we can be reacting to a situation based on associated memories from past situations. It takes self-awareness to step back from identifying with the inner voice and self-discipline to not follow the urge to defend our point of view when we take things personally. When we truly see that taking things personally is just coming from the influence of others own limited self- image, an inner shift of perspective is possible.
When you look into the eyes of a young child you can see your sense of adventure and freedom reflected back at you. This is our natural state. And to realize this innate sense of freedom takes us to see and control our habituated reactions. The Me Management system offers tools and processes to ignite the power in you to transcend limitation and step into the lightness of living from your innate sense of freedom.